Looking for solace and hope

Today has been a more measured day than I imagined. The sun came out as we went in search of plants for the “Golden Garden” and enjoyed a brief walk at Anglers Country Park followed by a coffee.

Having made and consumed dinner, I’m now trying to assemble my thoughts for tomorrow’s meeting with the oncologist. What to ask? What do I want? That answer is easy. It’s just a case of figuring out what I can cope with physically and mentally.

Are there any treatment options for my scenario? How devastating might these options be to the person I know I am. I have always been Pauline. Now is not the time for a personality change! On the other hand, I don’t want to say to science: “I don’t trust you,” but rather “Come on. Let’s give this a go! Let’s see if we can work together.”

After the initial diagnosis I was told: “We will keep you as well as we can for as long as we can”. I know the words were well meant, but I took them as a death sentence and cannot get their finality out of my brain. After all, isn’t that what a health service is all about?

And yet, we live with a death sentence from the moment we take our first breath. Some of us deal with this better than others. I’m not doing as well as I would have wished.

I hope I’m not giving my family a heavy burden by taking them to the appointment tomorrow. I’ve asked them to come with me to help me see my way through this maelstrom, this fog. I need others to ask questions I haven’t thought about or didn’t want an answer to. How selfish is that? Another big day tomorrow then, but I’m sure there’ll be another.

I’m looking for solace. I’m looking for positivity. I’m looking for inspiration. I’m looking for acceptance. I’m looking for hope.

I shall seek out something green to wear tomorrow. I shall try to imitate the zest for life that baby Alexander is displaying at the moment. My great nephew, 25 weeks premature, in neonatal intensive care needs Pauline’s Prayer Posse behind him and his Mum and Dad just as much as I do. Help me to link up to all that courage, that spirit that’s out there both in our world and beyond.

Christ, be thou my vision.
Our Lady of Wisdom, pray for us.
St Nicholas, pray for us.
St. Winifred, pray for us.
St. Francis, pray for us.
All you angels and saints, pray for us.